Vol. 4, No. 1 • Fall 1999

Preparing for a Respite Stay

Be clear with the child. Explain why the respite stay is occurring (e.g., so you can rest) and how long the respite period will last. Ask about any concerns the child has, and be clear that this is not another placement. Visit the respite provider. If possible, take your child to visit the respite family. Familiarizing the child with the respite provider and environment may reduce the child�s anxiety and make the respite period more fun. Share information with the provider. If you can�t visit, talk with them. Tell them about your child�her likes and dislikes, usual schedule, medical needs, and any other issues or concerns you think they should know about. Gather information from the provider. Find out about any special activities (swimming, picnics, etc.) planned for the respite period. Sharing this information with your child will help her look forward to the respite stay and help you pack appropriately (e.g., swimsuit). Talk about discipline issues with the respite provider. Most providers are willing to follow through with your discipline approach, but talk to them first before taking away �privileges� that may be part of the weekend plan for the whole respite family (e.g., swimming, a picnic).

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