The
Impact of Grief
Why do some birth families say they�ll work to get
their children back and then miss visits or do other
counterproductive and upsetting things?
Although there many reasons for the things birth parents do or don�t
do, a common one is grief. Grief can occur any time family members are
separated, not just when someone dies.
When they grieve, people often go through five stages: shock/denial,
anger, bargaining, depression, and resolution. Rather than progressing
from one to another, people often shift back and forth�for example,
a parent may move from anger to depression and back to anger again.
The chart at right lists some of the behaviors parents and children
exhibit at each stage of grief.
Recognizing that a birth parent or a child in your care is going through
the grieving process may provide you with insight and understanding
that will make it easier to work together.