Vol. 5, No. 1 Fall 2000
Debunking
Some Foster Care Myths
by
Jen Painter
Former Foster Teen's Perspective
Without fail, any time I�ve ever
opened a speech I�ve given with words that even slightly informs the
audience I was in foster care, I get the same reaction: �You couldn�t
have been in foster care. You are smart and beautiful and successful.�
For some reason, this reaction comes
from adults, perhaps because they have been accustomed to the stereotype
that all of us who are or were in foster care are in it because we are
bad kids.
When I speak to youth currently in
foster care, they never find it difficult to believe that I was once
one of them. Perhaps they see me as living proof that they too can overcome
the obstacles that have been thrown at them and continue to function
in society without permanently having the words foster care branded
on their forehead, warning everyone they come in contact with.
In fact, most of the people I interact
with on a regular basis don�t even know I was in foster care. They see
me as one of them, which is necessary in order to be considered �normal�
in society. I mean, let�s face it. Being a teenager is hard enough.
Add to that the drawbacks of growing up in foster care without support
or family, and life becomes even more difficult.
For those of us who do make it, the
fight never ends. We enter our adult lives with the expectation of surviving
and fulfilling our dreams, and then are slapped with the realization
that we are allowed few chances, because most of society thinks we are
on the verge of being convicts anyway. But my point is, that is not
the case.
Give us a chance. Don�t look down
on us, and support us in our efforts. We don�t breathe fire, and we
don�t have green hair. Wouldn�t that be shocking to see?! You may still
get some shock value from us, but not for the same reasons. It may come
when society sees that we really do have good intentions, we can be
successful, and we can succeed.
Jen Painter is a sophomore at
UNC-Chapel Hill and a member of the youth advocacy group SAY SO.
Foster teens: Join SAY SO!
SAY SO is Strong Able Youth Speaking Out, a statewide association made
up of youth who are or have been in out-of-home care. This includes
all types of substitute care: foster care, group homes, and mental health
placements.
SAY SO�s mission is to work to improve the substitute care system
by educating the community, speaking out about needed changes, and providing
support to youth who are or have been in substitute care.
You can be a member of SAY SO if you are under the age of 24, are
currently or have been in any kind of out-of-home care, including foster
or adoptive care. To join, fill out and mail in the form the below.
For more information, contact us by phone (800/820-0001) or e-mail ([email protected]).
Also, visit our website: http://sayso-nc.tripod.com.