Vol. 5, No. 2 May 2001
Conference
helps foster children decide for themselves
by
Michelle Johnson, from the Winston Salem Journal
JAMESTOWNFoster children
don't often get to make their own decisions, but one group yesterday
encouraged them to handle matters by themselves.
SaySo Saturday, the
annual conference of a statewide group called Strong Able Youth Speaking
Out, brings together children dealing with the foster-care system and
gives them a chance to talk about their experiences and push for changes.
The group started
three years ago with a grant from the Kellogg Foundation and is now
paid for with state money.
"These kids,
if they don't get the opportunity to make decisions, they'll make poor
decisions later," said Nancy Carter, the program director for SaySo.
"This is a way to give them back their decision-making power."
About 100 foster children from around the state attended the conference
at Guilford Technical Community College in Jamestown. They learned about
public speaking, effective advocacy, and the services available to them
when they age out of the system. There are 11,000 foster children in
North Carolina. About 2,200 of them are between the ages of 14 and 21.
The children run the
conference, a key to making them feel more confident. Many foster children
feel powerless because they have been shuffled from home to home during
their childhoods.
"Adults are automatically
seen as the enemy," said Jen Painter, a SaySo board member from
Durham. Painter, a 20-year-old sophomore at the University of North
Carolina at Chapel Hill, was placed in a teen crisis center at 16 after
a long period of being neglected. She felt that she didn't fit in with
the children at the home, who were sometimes more rebellious.
"I was a straight-A
student. I never even got detention in high school," she said.
When she began failing,
Painter asked all of her teachers to come to the guidance counselor's
office, where she explained what was happening to her and promised to
make up her work. She graduated fifth in her class and won a scholarship
that pays the full cost of her college education.
"I probably wouldn't
be at Carolina; I probably wouldn't have graduated if I hadn't had to
advocate for myself. I don't care whose face I have to get in. Don't
let anybody tell you (that you) have to give up," Painter said
during a workshop titled "How to be an Advocate."
"Nobody out there
is looking out for you the way you're looking out for yourself."
Painter and the other
SaySo board members are devoted to helping foster children survive in
the system.
"As adults we
can advocate for them, but it's not going to be half as powerful as
they are for themselves," said Joanne Scaturo, a SaySo adult advocate
who is also a staff-development consultant for the N.C. Division of
Social Services.
As Scaturo came into
the school cafeteria, Bernard Marton reached out to hug her.
"This is my mom,"
he said.
Marton, a slight young
man with tight braids and a quick smile, is also a SaySo board member.
He went into foster care at age 7. At first, he stayed with a neighbor.
When that fell through, he went to stay with his aunt.
"That didn't
last long because I was one of the baddest kidsstealing and stuff,"
Marton said. For a time, Marton was moved to a different place every
few days because of his attitude problems. At 18, he is getting ready
to leave the system.
Little of that old
angry self is present these days, and Marton credits his involvement
in SaySo.
"You've changed
a lot in the last year," Painter told him.
At first, Marton told
his friends that he was just getting involved in SaySo to get out of
his group home, but he says now that there's more to it.
"You've got to
be dedicated," Marton told the group. "I missed dances, I
missed proms so I could come to meetings. People want to hear what you
have to say. Don't be afraid to tell where you come from."
By Michelle Johnson Winston-Salem
Journal reporter. Copyright 2001 Winston-Salem Journal.
Reprinted with permission. All rights reserved.
Copyright �
2001 Jordan Institute for Families