Vol. 7, No. 2 May 2003
Book
Review: When
A Stranger Calls You Mom
by Becky Burmester
When
a Stranger Calls You Mom is the catchy title of a new book by Katherine
Leslie. The authors impressive list of credentials include a doctorate
in developmental psychology from North Carolina State University and
years of experience as a foster and adoptive parent.
This kind
of in the trenches experience gets the attention of foster
and adoptive parents. We know that it is one thing to talk the
talk and another to walk the walk. Many times we receive
advice from childless experts or experts parenting only birth children,
and we know that the children we are parenting present us with unique
challenges and needs.
When
a Stranger Calls You Mom contains some fascinating information about
brain development in young children and what happens as a result of
abuse and neglect. However, the real clue to Dr. Leslies presentation
of the information lies in the books subtitle, A Child Development
and Relationship Perspective on Why Traumatized Children Think, Feel,
and Act the Way They Do. Yes, this book is somewhat akin to reading
a textbook. The good news is that it is a brief one (144 pages), and
there is some great information included.
In
my typical fashion, I plowed straight through When a Stranger Calls
You Mom, from Dedication to After Word. However, I know that many
of the foster/adoptive parents I interact with lack time and energy
for extra tasks. Some are so pressed that they sometimes even read the
last several pages of a book first so they can assess whether it is
worth reading the whole thing.
If you use
this technique, I would recommend that you begin with the Afterword,
Preface, and Introduction and then Parenting from the Trenches
and Advice to Yet-to-Be Birth Parents. Not only will this
will show you what the book has to offer, it will whet your appetite
so that you will gladly tackle the entire book, from the beginning.
Dr. Leslie
has a website, <www.brandnewdayconsulting.
com> that provides information on ordering the book and about
workshops she offers.
This column
appears in each issue of Fostering Perspectives and I am always
interested in books that you think would be interesting and helpful
to foster parents.
We are better
foster parents as we continue to learn new skills. Please share your
suggestions with me so that others may become better foster parents.
You can contact me with questions or suggestions at <[email protected]>
or 919/870-9968.
Becky
Burmester is a foster parent and a member of the North Carolina Foster
Parents Association
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2003 Jordan Institute for Families