Food in Foster Care
by Nicole Lyght, age 22
When I was coming up in foster care, I ate what was given to me. On holidays, family get-togethers, Sunday breakfasts, and at church functions, I got a variety of different foods. But those special occasions only came around every once and a while. At home, the family and I ate mostly oodles of noodles and hotdogs. I feel that it is because of this I am not too fond of fruits and vegetables. I eat very few vegetables because I never grew accustomed to the different tastes and textures of most of them. I just never have an urge to eat a banana, an apple, or any other fruit for that matter. Healthy eating is a big part of life that I have never really participated in. I’ve known and been taught about healthy eating ever since elementary school. And although I know about healthy eating, I don’t eat healthy. Not because I choose not to, but because I am just used to eating the foods that I’ve acquired a taste for.
Unhealthy eating is a big part of a lot of people’s lives. For example, some people overeat when they’re stressed or upset. I’ve never overeaten unless I felt like I wouldn’t be getting my money’s worth or sometimes I find myself saying, “I know I’m full, but I have to finish this.” I don’t personally know youth in foster care who overeat in an effort to make themselves feel better, but I know that eating disorders and unhealthy eating are out there. I know they can affect young people in very destructive ways.
I believe that your weight affects the way people view you, speak to you, and think of you. I know a lot of people say, “I don’t care what others think” or “What others think doesn’t matter.”
Actually, it does.
It also affects the way you feel about yourself as a person. When I was younger I used to get picked on about my skin color. For years I felt I was inferior to lighter skinned women. I felt I was ugly. Why? Because I allowed the things others said to affect the way I felt about myself. Their words and actions changed my whole perspective of my inner and outer beauty. That’s how someone who may be overweight or underweight or who has an eating disorder would feel.
If you hear and see how much others negatively judge you, eventually that becomes your mindset.
Being a foster child with no job and making no money, you have no other choice but to eat what you are given. Well, you could starve, but I doubt anyone would want to do that.
It is very important for foster parents to provide healthy fruits and vegetables for their foster children to eat. A foster parent becomes a foster parent because the state feels that parent is a suitable candidate to raise and provide for foster youth. If the parent cannot provide what the child needs to better their physical health, that is when a social worker or someone from that supporting agency should step in.
Also, I do feel that social workers or someone from the agency should monitor what the foster parents are feeding children, because although the child lives in the foster parents’ home, they are still in the state’s custody. It is not only the parent’s responsibility to better the child, but also the responsibility of the social worker. Social workers should also take the time to go over the school lunch menu and to provide information on healthy eating so that a child has a better chance to make healthy decisions. |