{"id":1622,"date":"2019-05-16T18:24:28","date_gmt":"2019-05-16T18:24:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fosteringperspectives.org\/?p=1622"},"modified":"2019-10-25T17:19:36","modified_gmt":"2019-10-25T17:19:36","slug":"reflections-on-promoting-independence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fosteringperspectives.org\/?p=1622","title":{"rendered":"Reflections on Promoting Independence<\/br>An Interview with Resource Parents Tony and Wanda Douglas"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Wanda Douglas<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Youth in foster care face unique challenges as they transition to adulthood. To learn more about what it takes to support youth during this critical time, we spoke with North Carolina foster parents Tony and Wanda Douglas. In their 17 years as foster parents, the Douglases have fostered over 100 children and adopted four. They also train foster parents on helping youth reach self-sufficiency.<\/p>\n

What do resource parents need to know about youth who are transitioning to adulthood?<\/strong>
\nWe need to recognize that their first priority is to get out of the system. The only thing they want is their freedom, which to them means not having anyone tell them what to do. They don\u2019t understand the responsibilities associated with their freedom. Many end up homeless or in jail.<\/p>\n

The first 12 to 18 months after they leave care is about survival<\/em><\/strong>. They need income so they can achieve stability. Once they have that, they\u2019ll be able to focus on long-term goals such as going to college, learning a trade, etc.<\/p>\n

Youth have skills, but they might be hidden. Find out what they are really interested in and explore how they can use this to earn income. Think outside the box. What can they do right now<\/strong><\/em>, with what they have, to pay their rent and meet their concrete needs?<\/p>\n

We cared for a youth who enjoyed doing hair and makeup. She created a YouTube channel and made money doing video tutorials!<\/p>\n

What are the main skills youth need as they transition to adulthood?<\/strong>
\nFirst, they\u2019ve got to have tangible skills. They need to know how to find housing, manage their money, and find and maintain employment. They also need to be able to make the right decisions, communicate well with others, and handle peer pressure.<\/p>\n

Youth in foster care really struggle with decision-making. Adults have made most of their decisions for their entire lives. We have to prepare them to make decisions that will increase their likelihood of success.<\/p>\n

What are some of your \u201clessons learned\u201d from working with youth as they transition to adulthood?<\/strong>
\nWe have to let them become young adults. They don\u2019t want to be treated like a child. Step back and give them freedom to grow and make choices for themselves. They need to practice making decisions in a safe, supportive place and to deal with the natural consequences. This is what North Carolina\u2019s Foster Care 18-21 program is for.<\/p>\n

Normalize that they will make mistakes, and that this is okay. Ultimately, this process helps them learn, grow, and become more independent.<\/p>\n

Another big lesson learned to keep in mind is, just because they are 18 doesn\u2019t mean they are ready for adulthood. We all mature at different ages. Meet young people where they are. If we push them into adulthood too soon, we set them up to fail.<\/p>\n

Adapted from Children\u2019s Services Practice Notes, vol. 23, no. 1 (www.practicenotes.org<\/a>)<\/em><\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a>On Their Way<\/a><\/strong><\/em> is an instructional video and guidebook that show caregivers what they can do on a daily basis to help guide youth of any age to plan for their educational and career goals. The guidebook provides discussion points for meals, family activities, and advanced understanding of adolescent development. The curriculum covers education, career interests, decision making, finances, getting help, staying healthy, housing, and staying connected. It is available free through the on-demand courses page of www.fosteringNC.org<\/a>, the NC Division of Social Services\u2019 learning portal for resource parents.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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