In the last issue of Fostering Perspectives we asked young people in foster care, “If you were a foster parent, what would you do to help the children living in your home?“ Here’s what they had to say.
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First Place
Genesis, age 17
If I were a foster parent what I would tell the children living in my home they’re not alone in life, that there is good in every child, and they have what it takes to succeed in life. I would cover their basic needs—food in their stomachs, clothes on their backs, and a place to live. Most importantly, I would tell them that they’re loved very much and not to feel different or alone.
I want to see foster kids make it in life and find that one family who is out there waiting for that child. [I would] explain that being in a foster home doesn’t make you a bad kid, or is something to be afraid of. It’s not bad. It’s just one step at time being taken down a tough road.
I want my own foster kid to be able to talk to me about anything . . . . I want to be able to have something to say back and be able to help to the best of my ability. I want to fulfill so many foster kids’ lives and see the best out of them and have them feel they’re not alone. . . .
I want them to know that they’re safe, that I can provide for them, and that I love them no matter what the situation is. I would have my child know that when they take that first step into my house I wouldn’t treat them any different. . . .
I want to voice my opinion and stand up to be the first and say what I think and how I feel about foster care and the kids waiting or going in and out of it. I want to fight and see these kids be happy and succeed and have what every other kid has. They should feel no shame to be in a foster home. . . . If it were up to me I would take in every foster child out in the world who is begging for a family . . . . I want to make a huge difference. . . .
God makes things happen and I believe that foster parents will reach out and help these amazing kids who want a home and loving family. . . .
So, I am saying to all those kids out in the world to stand by me, stay tough, have hope, and believe that something good will happen in life, that a family is out there waiting for you all. Your wishes will come true. . . . I’m standing with all of you kids in the world today and for the rest of life to know that every day there is a kid who is being brought in a home to start a new beginning and life.
All you foster kids, don’t give up! There is a positive in life. Keep your heads up and voice your opinions. Speak up! Use your voice ! Stand tall and walk with pride because I’m walking with you!
Genesis received $100 for taking top prize in the writing contest.
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Second Place
Braxton, age 9
If I were a foster parent I would listen to [the kids in my care]. I would take care of them for the rest of my life.
I would put them to bed and read them a story and rub their back. I would love them and help them.
I would give them different experiences like plays, movies, sports, and trips.
I would give them healthy food.
I would buy them clothes.
If they didn’t know how to tie their shoes, I would tie their shoes for them. I would love them. (I was adopted to my forever home 1 year ago.)
Braxton received $50 for taking second prize in the writing contest.
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Third Place
Haley, age 14
If I were a foster parent, my first action would be to make a lasting first impression. I would present [the kids in my home] with a gift while also incorporating something unique about them. For example, if I had a young foster girl with red hair placed in my care, I would probably give her a Raggedy Ann doll or a beautiful dress. Also, I would definitely have some down time with the child and get to know them on a personal level, learn about their skills and achievements, or favorite food and TV show.
I think it would be important to celebrate their individuality and have a vacation picked out by each child. (Of course, these vacations would happen at different times). If I didn’t have the funds, we would go to the park and explore or I would buy an animal.
If I were a foster parent, I would definitely try to be a role model or parent figure, but not cross their boundaries. I would not try to replace their mother.
Overall, as a foster parent, I would try to be fun and outgoing while also balancing family time. I would try to make sure everyone got along and was comfortable.
Also, I would show them that being unique is something to be proud of, and accept any child I got, no matter their beliefs, gender, ethnicity, or sexual preferences. I would be their safe haven.
Haley received $25 for taking third prize in the writing contest.
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If I Were a Foster Parent
Julious, age 10
If I were a foster parent, I would first get to know (children) by finding out what their allergies are and when their birthday is. 
I would also ask if they were comfortable with our home and make some food they like.
Also, I would go on a vacation every month or so. I think doing something a kid wants to do is important, and the whole family can have some fun for a couple of days, which is not too bad.
Julious received $20 for having his essay published.
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