by Rochelle Johnson
We talk a lot about providing a broader safety net for the kids and families that come into our lives through foster care, but it’s important to broaden our own network of support. There are a variety of organizations throughout North Carolina that provide not only training, but support groups and social events to introduce you to fellow resource parents.
Resource parents have a unique parenting role, and most of us have struggled with stressors relating to our kids’ trauma, navigating the system, fostering a relationship with their parents and family, and the secondary trauma that caring for children in foster care presents. Talking with parents with similar experiences can provide you with local resources, and more importantly, someone who has a deeper understanding of your position as a resource parent.
If your community has a local organization for foster and adoptive parents, sign up for their newsletter to take advantage of new opportunities to connect. Joining a support group is a great first step to meet other parents, while also sharing your experience in a private and encouraging space. Some groups are now coming back to meeting in person, but many still meet virtually, which makes it even easier to participate from the comfort of your home.
As you learn more about other parents’ experiences, you’ll likely find insight and comradery in your support group. These groups can explore many parents’ worries, fears, and obstacles, but can also be a celebratory space for the wins and special moments we experience with our kids.
Support groups are also a great way to uncover resources and tips. At times, we may not even know the specific questions to ask as we unravel various parenting, mental health, educational, bureaucratic, or interpersonal challenges! Listening to another parent’s process reveals useful strategies, local support organizations or reading resources.
In addition to support groups, many organizations provide training and social events in the community such as annual celebration parties, local park playdates, and potlucks. Attending these events will allow you to naturally build stronger support networks, as well as give your children opportunities to meet other foster and adoptive children in the area.
If you are not aware of a resource parent organization in your community, a quick Google search may help. There is also a myriad of private Facebook groups that serve North Carolina resource parents broadly, as well as region-based groups for your area (visit the Foster Family Alliance of North Carolina website for more information). Sign up for your local organization’s newsletter, and make sure to follow them on social media to stay in the know.
Once you’re aware of events available in your area, take the plunge and attend! It’s one of the first steps to building a new community that may meet your needs as a resource parent.
Rochelle Johnson is on the board of Fostering Families, serving Durham, Orange and Wake County. Visit FOSTERING FAMILIES for more information.
